After the arrival of a new baby, it is all to easy
to neglect your partner ...
Life has changed Big Time - baby has arrived. You feel
proud, full of happiness but tired out and find it
very difficult to make time for quility time with
your partner. This is the danger time when relationships
can start to come apart. It is essential that you
reaffirm your love for your partner as the new arrival
can easily take up most of your time. You can generally
make it so that you are both involved with the same
task, for example, the bedtime story. That way, you
spend time together as well as with your baby. Once
baby is asleep, it can be difficult for you to make
the effort to spend time with your partner - do it!
Even if it is just for a few minutes.
In order to make more quality time for each other,
at some point you will need to organise a babysitter
so that you can go out - to the restaurant, cinema,
theatre, or whatever. But the big problem then is to
decide who to trust to do the job. You may be lucky
enough to live near family, they are often more than
willing to look after your baby, especially if they
have had a family.
But if that is not the case you will have to find
a professional babysitter. That can be very time consuming
and they may not always be available. When choosing
a babysitter, always check their credentials very carefully.
Take up references and talk with people who use their
services. Ask these people about punctuality, reliability,
has their child ever seemed upset about the sitter
and so on. Interview the potential sitter, find out
about their training and double check with the trainers
that they have really been and how they fared. Ask
the sitter what they would do in cases of emergency
to establish how they would react. If there is an agency
in your region, most of that will have been done, but
it is still worth interviewing the sitter before the
first visit to find out their character for yourself.
A good alternative to this is to join or set up a
babysitting circle in your neighbourhood. You will
undoubtedly get to know many of the other families
with babies and toddlers who live close to you. They
will all be in the same situation and want free time
themselves, sometimes at short notice - many of them
will be willing to babysit for you in return for the
same favor from yourself. But a circle like this needs
committment - beware of the ones who come up with excuses
or never seem to be available to take their turn. Usually
though, the circle will work perfectly and not only
will you have baby time, you have time to love your
partner as well, keeping your relationship strong.
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make when organising care for your child.
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